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Lacey's avatar

So beautiifuly written!!! Motherhood is vast. But we make no room for in our our society. This made me feel so much better. I had a beautiful birth and I'm struggling postpartum. 🩵🙏🏼

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Guen Bradbury's avatar

Sending love. Things get better. After my first was born, we were about a month in, and everything was difficult. My partner said to me one evening "Do you think there will come a time when we'll regret her existence less than once a week?"

Many years later, I'm happy to report that yes, there did come a time when we no longer felt like that at all, and it came much sooner than we expected. :)

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Tiffany Holmes's avatar

I see you mama…sames! And it’s okay. It’s temporary. It’s real. There’s lots to discover in this place too. Praying for some light to shine in for us soon 🙏💛

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Yen in Service's avatar

Thank you for this wisdom. I do agree, from my own freebirth experiences, as well as hospital birth, my postpartums didn't seem to relate to the births much.

What did make an easier postpartum was rest! The 'golden month' of rest and bonding with baby is invaluable no matter what birth you have.

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Tiffany Holmes's avatar

YES! The rest is ESSENTIAL! Often soooo overlooked even though it’s common sense 🙃

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Guen Bradbury's avatar

I agree. Although in my experience as someone who never managed to properly breastfeed, that special birth experience did help to make the heartache and difficulties of the postpartum time easier to bear. It certainly didn't make it smooth, but it did provide a bit of warmth in my heart and a wonderful memory when everything else felt overwhelming...

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Tiffany Holmes's avatar

ahh yes! I can relate to that too. With my first birth I leaned a lot on the positive birth experience I had to get me through the tough PP. Then with my second birth, it was reversed! Super traumatic birth but a lovely breastfeeding journey that I cherished so much. Helped my mental a lot!!

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Maggie Wyss's avatar

My births were all really positive experiences, and so were my postpartum and breastfeeding journeys. But that first pregnancy...wow. It was an emotional whirlwind unlike anything I'd ever been through. It felt like all the initiations of motherhood happened in those nine months, and things have felt steady every since. But it felt like pregnancy was mentally easier for everyone else! Motherhood looks so different for each of us, and I love how you’re normalizing that diversity of experience. Because I certainly needed to hear it.

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